tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022070783700984519.post7838864821648132785..comments2024-02-24T17:11:35.250-08:00Comments on The Loveland9: Learning his languageloveland9http://www.blogger.com/profile/09027223311460233120noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022070783700984519.post-34081378630035284082010-05-18T13:23:24.207-07:002010-05-18T13:23:24.207-07:00Oh I can so relate on the mom thing. It's hard...Oh I can so relate on the mom thing. It's hard sometimes. And you have almost double the amount of kids I do. I don't want to even think about all that extra work. Phew! You've gotta be one busy woman. <br /><br />It's hard because being a mom is hard and crazy and then you turn around and it's the funnest most joyful thing you've ever done. And it's like that constantly. I guess we can all relate which makes it nice!Erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03787172175104294047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022070783700984519.post-80273745361776297332010-05-17T10:48:59.558-07:002010-05-17T10:48:59.558-07:00Tonia,
Great post. As you can tell from Amy's...Tonia,<br />Great post. As you can tell from Amy's comment, this book is near and dear to our heart. I disagree with Dr Dude about going to work as an act of service. It is, in my opinion, an act of responsibility for the husband to go to work and provide for his family. <br /><br />There are certainly days that I don't want to do it, yet I am fortunate to do something I love which makes it a little easier. Even so, if I hated what I did, I would feel compelled because of my responsibility to my family. <br /><br />When I express my love to my wife through acts of service, I don't ever think of running off to work, but rather what act of service would bring her joy.<br /><br />My hat is off to D for putting in the countless hours of study and dedication that it must have taken to become a dentist and be able to provide well for your family. <br /><br />JakeJakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07810260099616479506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022070783700984519.post-90156098785339667382010-05-17T10:11:52.360-07:002010-05-17T10:11:52.360-07:005 Love Languages saved Jake and I's marriage y...5 Love Languages saved Jake and I's marriage years ago. Its a wonderful tool.<br /><br />One thing Dr. Dude is missing is that speaking your spouse's love language means that you do it deliberately to communicate love to them.<br /><br />I have no doubt that my husband does what he does every day because he loves our family. Yes, he's a pilot and he loves what he does, but there are many days he'd rather do anything else than be at work. Yet he goes to work to provide for those he loves. <br /><br />May he have plenty of credit for that. D too for that matter.<br /><br />But what we've learned through the 5 Love Languages is that we all have things we do each day for the ones we love. Many of them are responsibilities, some come naturally and others not, but we do them to tell/show our spouse we love them. But often times the words, or service, or gift goes unnoticed because the other person doesn't understand that particular language.<br /><br />Because of this it is important to know and learn each other's love language. And then speak it regularly. The joy you will find through this is truly immeasurable. <br /><br />No doubt D is serving you and your family by providing for you. But it would be my guess that if his language is touch, that when he sees you stressed or needy or overwhelmed, he uses his language to communicate love. Because that is what he would like {and needs} in return. That is what makes sense to him. Just as you work to serve him in order to show your love. <br /><br />Jake's language is Acts of Service. He'll do dishes, clean house, change diapers, go grocery shopping all to show how much he loves me. I appreciate those things, but because my language is words of affirmation, I just want to hear him say he loves me. And so I'm constantly telling him how wonderful I think he is. But to him, words don't mean much. He needs his language {Acts of Service}. We can both be shouting "I LOVE YOU" in our own language and the other won't even know what is being said.<br /><br />It almost brought an end to our marriage until we figured it all out. Now when I see the service Jake does regularly for me, I understand he is saying "I Love You". And then I look for ways to serve. And when I'm fawning over him with words, he remembers that I like to hear that too.<br /><br />Whew. Too many words for a "comment" but I really wanted to share this.<br /><br />In summation... :) {DId I mention I am wordy?}<br /><br />D goes to work and it is definitely service. But there are Acts of Service that he can do that will speak to you much more clearly. Just as there are things you can do for him that will speak more clearly than Acts of Service. The goal is effective communication.<br /><br />Okay. I'm done now! It truly is a great tool. I'm looking forward to hearing how it goes!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03357561122382622596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4022070783700984519.post-26394219223386075742010-05-17T05:43:51.294-07:002010-05-17T05:43:51.294-07:00As always, I enjoy the blog, and reading about you...As always, I enjoy the blog, and reading about your family. I think something you may have missed - and may know - but didn't comment on, is the fact that every time D. goes to work - he is performing acts of service - to both you and the family. The reason you and your family have the lifestyle they do - is because of the service he performs every day. You get to stay home, and be a mother - due to that service.<br /><br />Regardless of what he says, and the fact that he chose his profession - there are hundreds of things he would rather do than go to work. However, being a great provider - he chooses to go to work to provide and serve those he loves.<br /><br />Long story short - next time you think of how much you love being home, and doing this - or doing that with your children and your family - realize that D. is at work making all of that possible.<br /><br />Way to go D! You da man!Dr. B. Josephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17898355337191117934noreply@blogger.com